Micah Hardeman and Antoinette Hardeman

With over three decades of experience navigating their own marriage, Micah and Antoinette Hardeman bring a wealth of lived experience and professional expertise to their work with couples. Certified as Prepare/Enrich facilitators and instructors in evidence-based couple communication collaborative marriage skills, they specialize in helping couples foster deeper connection and resolve conflicts skillfully. Their unique “SkillsZone” approach focuses on collaboration rather than compromise, equipping couples to build relationships rooted in mutual understanding and care.

Antoinette Hardeman also serves and supports families, individual teens, and adult men and women who are surviving childhood trauma. Micah and Antoinette jointly serve and support couples, bringing both personal and professional insights into their transformative work.

As founders of Hardeman Healing Hearts Counseling, L.L.P. in Olympia, Micah and Antoinette are passionate about creating a ripple effect of healing, starting with couples and extending to families and communities. They believe healthy relationships aren’t born—they’re built through intentional communication, self-awareness, and spiritual growth. Together, they combine a compassionate, faith-based perspective with practical tools to inspire transformation in every couple they work with.

Having been married for 34 years, Micah and Antoinette openly share their journey: “We were indifferent for 15 years but blissful for 7, which means we haven’t always been mutually satisfied, collaboratively communicated, or nurtured a nourishing marriage. We also didn’t have the right tools to build one. Consequently, we were selfish and emotionally unhealthy. But now, we thrive as individuals and have an emotionally healthy, spiritually rich, and impenetrable marriage! Together, we indeed are ‘one’ because of His Grace.”

Now, they are dedicated to fostering collaborative communication skills within couples’ relationships. Their primary goal is to provide training that equips couples with essential talking and listening skills, as well as communication styles needed for connection and conflict resolution, through their “SkillsZone” approach. Through workshops, coaching, and private counseling sessions, they aim to create a harmonious “I care about me and you” attitude.

What makes their couple’s process unique in resolving conflict is their aim for Collaboration versus Compromise. The goal is a “WIN-WIN” or no deal—achieving mutual satisfaction and understanding. Through collaboration, couples learn that healthy marriages aren’t found or born but built on mutual respect, self-awareness, collaborative communication, and a caring attitude and skilled behavior toward themselves and their partner.

“When we inspire couples to change and they heal, their children heal, their family heals, and ultimately, their community heals. When given the right strategies and resources, outcomes can be truly satisfying!”